Sadness is a Wall
Updated: Jan 8, 2019
“Sadness is but a wall between two gardens” - Kahlil Gibran
Over 44 million American adults suffer with mental health and over 9 million have an unmet need for help. This is an alarming number of people who are suffering!
But, what about the silent ones who never admit their struggles?
Mental health difficulties like anxiety, depression, and post traumatic stress disorder often leads to self-medicating by forms of substance abuse & behavioral addictions. Unfortunately, by temporarily alleviating the problem, the use of substances will only worsen the mental health conditions, and subsequently forms an addiction. In many cases, this addiction & behavior, has a very bitter end.
Many people do not understand depression. Society has taught us from a young age that if you cry, you are weak. We are taught that you can control your thoughts & your emotions. Yes, while it is true that one can train their mind, you cannot simply change the chemicals of the brain & nervous system that make up the complexity of depression.
Depression is real.
It is a disease.
It is not contagious.
It does not make you less of a person to have it.
Those, like myself, struggling with depression, anxiety, stress, and/or addiction often feel alone in a busy, bustling crowd. We feel overwhelmed. We feel helpless. We feel hopeless.
You do not have to deal with it alone! You should not deal with it alone! You are strong, not weak, reach out!
Reaching out to friends and family seems to be the most reliable source of help… but, like many who struggle with mental health will tell you, your family and friends are not going to help you.
Did I really just say that?
Yes! I love my family and my friends, but, they are not going to meet your needs. Loved ones will disappoint you, they will upset you, and they will hurt you. Not because they do not care, although it appears (or feels) like that. But, because they are human and without the understanding of the disease like that of a medical professional.
We who are suffering are also to blame because we expect a different outcome with those closest to us than what we would expect from a professional in the field. Your friends and family will help in the ways that they can (sometimes), but instead of adding to your emotional strain (& theirs), reach out to a professional!
Mental Health America has many resources including an “In Crisis” hotline. Help is possible!
Do not suffer in silence.
While sadness is but a wall between two gardens, and you may not always live in the garden of pure bliss and happiness, you can find peace balancing on that wall in between!